I wore it to work the other night. I thought it went nicely with the all black uniform, and I'm wearing red nail polish, too. Things had a nice retro vibe-- a little bit glamorous, it was something to keep me upbeat throughout my thirteen-hour shift waiting on people.
Men ruin everything.
"Hey, Miss Red Lips!"
"Come on, let me watch you put your lipstick on."
"You be my girlfriend, I'll buy you all the lipstick you want, little lady."
Now I never want to wear it again.
Maybe I'm overreacting. Maybe I'm just not used to things like this. But why should they be able to take something that I liked so much and turn it into something to be embarrassed or ashamed by?
I took it off then. And I can't wear it today.
Whatever.
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I know what you mean, I find myself lately playing my fashion risks down a lot lately just because of the recent groan-inducing response I've been getting from the less civilized species of the world.
But then I think - Carrie Bradshaw would never let someone else decide her outfit or her look or her mood. The next time someone says something obnoxious, you gotta own the comment. Take the power they had in saying it and making it yours. Next time they offer to buy you some, respond: 'Buy it now. Let's see it.'
They expect for you to not respond or get aggravated. Don't show that it ruffles you, and DONT by any means let go of your desire to wear it. I bet you looked just like Plum and thats too good to let go because some guy's have to suffer with the fact that it's only them and their hands tonight.
http://www.washingtoncitypaper.com/display.php?id=1852
You will love this article.
Dear Fabuliste,
I feel the naturalness of your reaction. You have good reasons to feel the way you feel about this phenomenon. This is the social equivalent to aggressive panhandling, demanding something from you without offering something that is wonderfully valuable to you first. Sadly, that last quote is also a great example of supplication. It would be nice for that third man to understand that by offering all the lipstick you want, he makes it clear that apparently he’s not good enough on his own to be worth your affection … and also implies that sad understanding that he’s the kind of man who’s used to women trading gf status for lipstick. Not an attractive message.
I feel you can allow this kind of man to ruin everything about himself, and notice those feelings becoming anchored to him, rather than the way you enjoy decorating who you are. There do exist men who would rather celebrate a discriminating taste in crimson glamour.
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